How to style my hair like this?

What product are you using to style your hair? You might want to try using pomade to focus on what pieces you want standing. Redken makes pomade for men that holds pretty strong and doesn't feel sticky. I would suggest using a small amount first to build it up, then adding more if needed. Sometimes the trick is creating a mess with your hair with one hand (rubbing it from side to side), then working in the pomade to build it up. Not sure if this will work, but it's worth a shot. Hope it helps :o)